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Secrets of Love by Christine Akiteng

libertyloveebug — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 09:05:55 +0000

I enjoyed this…seems pretty accurate

1. Know yourself – Know and accept yourself the way you are today, now. This does not mean that you do not want any changes. Instead this means that you accept that you are ‘good enough’ just as you are now, and desire to become more of who you really are. If you can’t love and accept yourself unconditionally, it is unrealistic to expect anyone else to love you unconditionally.

2. Allow yourself to be seen – You can never feel truly loved if you can not let others see who you truly are. You have to let the person see who you are and allow him/her to accept you. When you feel total freedom to be yourself; be fully open, honest, transparent, fully naked, without hidden agenda or hidden motive, and free of all insecurities and the like, you are more able to invite others in to share your inner world – fears and vulnerability, dreams and deepest feelings of love.

3. Choose your life companion carefully – Do not chose someone based on how “good’ it feels being around him/her; because you think you have some kind of advantage or power that you can use to control him/her or because you are desperate and lonely. Instead choose someone with whom you can become more than you have ever been before; someone who touches your very soul – and totally transforms you so that you’ll never be the same again. It is the difference between just being together and becoming together.

4. Fall deeply in love – Do not be afraid to fall deeply in love because that love might leave. People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Some people come into your life to serve a specific purpose and when that purpose is fulfilled they will depart. Others come into your life to support you during a certain period of your life. After you grow out of this period they no longer are needed so they must leave. And there are others who come in for the long haul. Just as the sun rises in the East and sets in the West, people coming and going is a natural rhythm of life and being too cautious with your heart means that you are missing out on living. The rhythm of life is not going to change for you – you might as well join the dance of life!

5. Let him/her be – Let go off expectation, let go off requirements and rules and regulations, let go off trying to get others to conform to what you believe to be the right way or perhaps, the way society dictates. This does not mean you stop caring, pretend nothing is wrong when something is bothering you or, don’t ask for what you want but an active process of choosing how you react, taking care of what needs to be done, expressing your feelings, releasing them, being done with it, and moving on. For if the person you love is restricted by you (and your feelings) he/she will not feel truly loved. Not totally.

6. Be supportive of his/her dreams – Teach yourself how to support your partner unconditionally. I say teach yourself because it is not always easy, as it sometimes involves speaking the truth, yet doing so without withholding love, and giving moral support even if you do not share of approve of his/her dreams. It means acknowledging that he/she has his/her own hopes and dreams and if you love him/her you will encourage and support hin/her in achieving those hopes and dreams not place conditions to frustrate him/her.

7. Have a strong social network of your own – Don’t’ expect your partner to act as a cure-for-all (low self-esteem, loneliness, anger, boredom, sex, finances) etc. When you expect your partner to solve all of your problems you deny yourself and your partner innumerable opportunities for change, discovery and growth. The same applies to thinking that you and only you can solve his/her every single problem and meet all of his/her needs. Setting him/her free to find happiness and fulfillment outside of you will not only help you avoid relationship burn out but make the two of you closer because you both feel that you are growing and are fulfilled.

8. Make love consciously – Be generous with yourself by staying consciously relaxed. This is more than trying to stuff as much pleasure and energy into the genitals as quickly as possible so that you arrive at an orgasm or even trying to prolong orgasm or ejaculation (tightening the muscles and tensing the body) but taking the time to allow sexual energy to slowly build up, distribute itself throughout your system (mind, body and spirit) and revitalize it, so that you can experience even more pleasure and even more vitality. The more generous you are with your sexual energy, the more powerful the effect sexual energy will have in your entire life.

9. Live and let live – Love is something of here and now, not something you do to get a result, or get something for the future but an action in which you are fully present where you already are. An action that fulfills its own purpose at every single moment – one that does not need for you to hurry the moment but just let it be.

Morning sex.

libertyloveebug — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 20:51:53 +0000

Overly marinated body flavors and expired body odors,morning sex always seems to be the best. Sure it usually consists of one lazy position, but the morning wood is without a doubt the purest of erections. Just roll over and wiggle your bottom and its there alert with enthusiasm,no questions asked. Its so pure that often he’ll have the wood and still be half sleep. In these situations,ladies you must take thee initiative. Position yourself correctly and then just slide on,he will wake up gasping with amazement and start giving you the goods. It wont last too long but its usually just right.And when its over he’ll probably go right back to sleep considering he wasn’t fully awake to begin with.That’s your que to start making breakfast :]

Some women just get me in a strange way

libertyloveebug — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 01:32:40 +0000

I don’t consider myself to be bi-sexual but, there’s a few girls out there that make me feel a certain way. These women tend to have a strong natural beauty with a little quirkiness to them as well as an undeniable effortless sex appeal . Someone like Fionna Apple,or even Audrey Hepburn. Anyway,these women make me feel like I want to fuck them. Weird part is I don’t want to eat their pussy or fuck them with a strap on like normal lesbians. I just really want to good old fashion fuck them like they deserve to be fucked. Its kind of frustrating really. I feel as though I should have a temporary penis just for these occasions. Not a strap on or anything like that. I’m thinking more like a real penis that I could summon up when ever I feel the urge to sex one of these beautiful women. Okay that is all :]

that’s love baby..thats love :]

libertyloveebug — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 06:14:07 +0000

“We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird,and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours,we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love” -Margaret Cho

Isn’t it the best feeling ever when you find someone that you can be your goofy weird self with and they still want to have sex with you?

When your doing all your best farm animal impressions and he cant help but jump your bones in the middle of “moo moooo im a cow”,that’s love baby..thats love :]

SellYourVirginity.com

libertyloveebug — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 21:37:17 +0000

Okay so who saw that episode of “The Tyra Banks Show” where that girl goes on and talks about how she is going to auction off her virginity? My first thought was “WOW that’s crazy”. Then I really thought about it and I’m like fuck dude I DEFINITELY should have sold mine. Most girls give their virginity up in the most unromantic sleazy ways. Not to bash my friends, but none of them lost their virginity to someone they loved or even cared about. Virginity gets lost during drunken nights of peer pressure, not passionate nights of love-making. I’m not even going to tell you how I lost my virginity, this isn’t suppose to be a sad post. That shit in “The Notebook” never happens :/

Wait til your 18 and then sell it for some good money. If you’re going to give it up to some young sleezebag anyway, why not just give it up to an old sleezebag with money. Selling your virginity is a very responsible decision. Think about it, your about to go to college your going to have expenses(your parents are going to use your college savings to get the kitchen remodeled) your going to need a car it also would be nice to start-up a nice savings for the FUTURE. I heard that the auction for Natalie Dylan’s virginity is up to 3.8million now……yea I know I feel stupid too. If I could go back in time and sell mine I would, and you can judge me all you want,but I’d do it in a heartbeat. Most parents preach “save it for marriage”. I’m going to preach “save it until your old enough to sell it then save the rest for marriage”. Judge me!

Never give up little girl!

libertyloveebug — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 12:32:14 +0000

I’m sorry but aren’t you the same guys that told us we could be whatever we wanted to be as long as we put our minds to it? Okay so how come all of a sudden changing into our favorite animals is soooo off the wall? Just because its impossible doesn’t mean I wont make it happen you dream killing sons of bitches!

Never give up little girl!

THE THING

libertyloveebug — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 05:02:33 +0000

Sometimes when I wake up for the first few seconds I feel like something is there hovering over me. Not like a person or a ghost, I do not fear it,but it’s definitely something alive and aware. It doesnt have an appearance it just has a vibe. It doesnt speak but it definitely has a purpose. It’s almost like an invisible cloud of intelligence. It feels like any and everything. I feel really connected to this thing like possibly I at some point was it or I was inside it .Perhaps this thing comes and takes me away when I dream. It takes me on a journey, or maybe it takes me to another part of the world and allows me to be something else for a while. Maybe it purposely wakes me up right before it leaves so that it could say goodbye. Maybe its all nothing more than a figment of my insane imagination. Does that make it any less real? Nope.

Now that I’m growing dreads….

libertyloveebug — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 03:30:28 +0000

Now that I’m growing dreads my cool points are on the rise.

Now that I’m growing dreads I feel and look cool as fuck when I smoke weed.

Now that I’m growing dreads when I walk down the street and pass by a Jamaican they yell out “Rastafarian Queen!” and it makes me feel like I belong to a secret club.

Now that I’m growing dreads I find that more white men are attracted to me. I’m not 100% sure why this is but I think that it has to do with the fact that a black womens true beauty comes out more when she wears her natural hair. Naturally!

Now that I’m growing dreads I honestly feel like nobody can tell me shit and nobody has thus far!

Now that I’m growing dreads listening to reggae is a lot more fun!

Now that I’m growing dreads people who knew me before the dreads say things like “okay miss Badu” or ” i see you Lauryn Hill”…I try to front like I don’t like it but I do.

Now that I’m growing dreads I feel obligated to have poetry on deck and ready to be recited when necessary (the pressure is on).

Now that I’m growing dreads people often say they like my new style,which I find funny because I haven’t changed up my wardrobe whatsoever. Dreads just make you cool man.

Making a long story very short

libertyloveebug — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 09:27:52 +0000

I grew up being a whole lot of things but at the end of it all I was a big ball of nothingness rolling around like a tumbleweed in a lush world of possibilities. I knew I was smart and I had talent,but I was feeling empty constantly telling myself that there had to be more to this life. Hiding my true feelings and concerns with smiles and lies. I could get nothing done. My mind was so all over the place that every time I tried to accomplish something my efforts would go idle early on because I just was not focused. It was beyond frustrating because I knew I had so much potential. I just wondered why this was happening to me and why I couldnt change.

Not being provided with answers and not understanding myself left me crying in the mirror one night with a pair of scissors and a question “My throat or my hair?”, because something had to go. Fortunately I went with option #2 which lead to a lot of self-discovery and curiosity in areas that I had never before considered change. This was a very positive and pivotal time in my life, but something else had to be done….something far more drastic! I realized that my problem was the fact that mind as clouded with so much bullshit so many opinions that were not really mine.

There was absolutely no way I could consider all these new possibilities with a jaded mind.Soooooo fairly recently I have dropped everything that I once believed in (religion,love,sex,existence, ect…)and am now allowing myself to rediscover life in my own way and at my own pace. I plan on enjoying every moment of this journey of discovery (yes there will be weed). I hope that you enjoy it too because I cannot be stopped at this point homie >:]